We all hear of out of control teenagers getting into trouble and causing harm to themselves and others. But what if this is your child? Or what if your child is not causing problems out of the home but is constantly creating conflict with other family members? Some teenagers have a difficult time coping with strong emotions. They may feel enormous amounts of hostility, anger, and disrespect towards others and many times can even direct these feelings towards themselves. If you and your child are struggling, you should understand there is help for difficult and out of control teenagers.
How do I know if my teen needs help?
If the conflict you and your child are experiencing seems to be extreme or more than the normal ups and downs you would expect with a teenager, than you and your child may need help. However, conflict is not the only sign your teen may need help. If your teen is withdrawn from you and seems unhappy more days than not, there could be underlying issues that need to be addressed Adolescence is a time of great changes that can leave some children vulnerable to developing depression, anxiety, and/or low self-esteem. All of these issues can lead to teens acting out of control, even though the behavioral signs can look very different depending on the child’s personality and external circumstances.
Signs and symptoms your teen may need help
It’s important to seek help as soon as you can. Learn about the warning signs that indicate it’s time to get help.
- Running away or threatening to run away
- Inappropriate anger:
- Becoming unreasonably angry or minor issues or becoming violent
- Participating in illegal activities
- Signs of drug use
- Signs of depression
- Problems in school, failing, refusing to go or getting in trouble or kicked out of school
- Changes in friends, especially developing friendships with crowds that are involved in drinking, drugs, or other illicit activities
- Significant and unhealthy changes in mood, behavior, and/or attitude
Individual and family therapy
Your teen may benefit from therapy is he or she is difficult to control and seems to be on a downward slide in behavior and attitude. Your teen may be acting this way for a variety of reasons and it is important to understand why. Things can be happening in your child’s life that you do not know about. For example, trauma and abuse could be taking place outside the home or in a way, the parent doesn’t know about.
Family relationships also play a role in every teenager’s life. Sometimes relationships between parents and children need guidance and help. In these cases, it is highly beneficial for the child and parent(s) to participate in family therapy. Family therapy is about fostering understanding on both sides of the relationship and protecting the child and parents from experiencing further harm or causing more damage to the relationship.
If you have a troubled teen, early intervention and therapy can be extremely beneficial for the entire family and especially the teen who is at risk. Unfortunately, the longer you wait to seek help, the more out of control the situation can get. Take steps to protect your child and create a positive relationship and family environment as soon as you realize there may be a problem.
Therapy in Statesville and Cornelius
Dr. Gerald Brown is a therapist and life coach practicing in Statesville and Cornelius, North Carolina. He is within a short travel distance from Davidson, Mooresville, Huntersville, and North Charlotte. If you cannot travel to see Dr. Brown, he also provides therapy online.
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